From Bump to Baby: Five Things I Learned During Labor [Guest Post]

Hi friends! Currently, I’m siting on the beach with my large extended family for a little R&R this week. While I’m gone, one of my dearest friends, Amanda, has graciously agreed to keep the lights on at the Heights and guest post for a few days! Amanda has such a great heart and is stinking hilarious. She is also a new mama to a precious baby boy. I know you will enjoy her writing. Since this month has turned out to be ‘baby month’ around here, Amanda’s posts will keep with the theme of motherhood 🙂 Enjoy!

Pregnancy can teach you a lot, such as: how well you can discreetly throw up in a parking lot, how to nap on your office floor during your lunch break, or just how patient you can be as you continue to swell up like a balloon. Then at the end of all this you have your final test of what you are made of, a.k.a. labor.

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I can safely say that during my 30 hours of natural labor I learned a lot, but here are the five main things I learned during labor as I patiently waited (with a few choice words) for my son to make his grand appearance.

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1. My Husband Is A Rock Star

Now I already knew this, otherwise I would not have married him ;), but my husband is a freaking rock star. Not only did he graciously agree to take 12 weeks of two hour long Bradley birthing classes, but he also actually did all of the things that we learned in order to help make my dream come true of having an all natural labor. He was in it the whole time with me, he never gave up (even when I wanted to), and he never got discouraged as the hours ticked by. I can honestly say I could not have done it without him. So thanks babe for all the times you lifted me up and supported me – both figuratively and literally P.S. sorry for the bruise on your collar bone.

2. It’s Okay To Look Like An Idiot When You’re Having A Baby

There were a lot of things I was nervous about when it came to labor because at times it is not pretty, clean, or even remotely attractive. There are certain things I swore I would never do (like labor in a tub or on the toilet, both of which I ended up loving) because I thought it was gross. But you know what I realized – none of that matters when you are having a baby! You will do pretty much anything, even if you look like a crazy person. You have to have a good sense of humor when you do natural labor because there are some ridiculously silly things you do to help with the pain and with the process – such as shuffling back and forth in your hospital room sucking on your thumb …

3. This Body Can Do Work

I have nothing against modern medicine or the choice to have medical intervention, but for me I wanted to see what this body could do. As women we were created to bear children, and our bodies have everything we need to make it through labor. So I decided that I wanted to experience fully what my body was created to do, and man was it worth it! I never thought I would say these words, but I loved my labor. Some people may think I am crazy, but man I feel accomplished. Making it through what is deemed one of the most painful experiences in life … check.

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4. I Can Do Anything I Set My Mind To

Attitude is everything. Like many things in life, labor is 20% physical and 80% mental – okay maybe it is more like 10% mental and 90% physical, let’s be real. I feel extremely blessed to have been a healthy mom with a healthy baby because I got to experience that I was a lot stronger mentally than I thought. For me, having medicine to get rid of pain was just not an option, and a mantra from my Bradley teacher continuously went through my head, “pain with a purpose”. I knew that there was nothing wrong with the pain that I was feeling, it was all a part of the process. With each contraction my little man was being prepped for this world and I was being prepped to be his mom. Knowing that pain was just pain, I was able to overcome my fears of it and offer up my suffering for many different intentions. What a powerful experience that was!

5. It Really Is A Miracle

I feel like I have heard a million times that a baby is a “miracle of life” and I usually rolled my eyes like I do at every other cliché comment. But have you ever seen a baby fresh out of the womb!? That is a freaking miracle! I don’t know about any of you other moms out there, but not once during my pregnancy did I ever consciously stop to focus on growing a liver, or lungs, or a brain, or skin, nope that all just happened inside of me with no effort on my part. Then, after hours of having their entire bodies shrink-wrapped during contractions, our babies come out working. They can breathe, they can hear, they can see, they can even poop those gross meconium poops. That is a miracle, it is mind blowing, and it is proof of our incredible God! I feel so honored that God blessed me to be the vessel for this little life that He has such great plans for.

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Now as I sit here and gaze at my beautiful three-month-old son, it really is hard to believe that he used to be inside of me. He was just a little bump in my belly, and now he is my little baby.

Amanda is very passionate about and in love with her Catholic faith. She is so blessed to be married to her best friend. They have one little amazing boy who keeps them on their toes and smiling all the time. She currently works for an international Catholic youth ministry corporation, Life Teen, and her husband is a youth minister – so they pretty much are always around teenagers, which keeps them constantly entertained. 

Comments

  1. Such a great post! Thank you for sharing your labor reflections with us 🙂

  2. This was wonderful! I’m currently about 12 weeks pregnant and posts like this are VERY inspiring as the adventure in pregnancy continues 🙂 Thank you for sharing your story Amanda! And Olivia, I’m so glad I found your blog! 🙂

  3. Great insight Amanda! Loved seeing you and your little man on Sunday❤️

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